Are the bad things a part of the process??  Or are some bad things things that can and should be gotten rid of?
I am finding out every day, that I need to change this, or tweak that, and adjust my temperement, and try to 
be as accomodating to people as I can, so that 'no problems arise.'  Yet, 'problems arise.'  In doing all of these things
to try to keep afloat, I feel like they make me drown at times, and fear that in my concern over others, myself
will become dilluted and diverted, and that I'll forget my core, and my drive, and my goals, and eventually
break down.